WANT BETTER SEX? THEN GIVE UP

Eh?

Giving up sex completely sounds extreme, but couples find that taking a holiday from disappointed expectations and performance pressure – instead spending time getting to know each other again through strictly non-penetrative contact – works wonders when they want to regain their passion.

Ripping apart old patterns of relating to each other means couples get back to basics. Simply spending time with each other trying to make your partner feel good is

powerful. You’ll remember what all the fuss was about in the first place.

Sex expert Tracey Cox says sex is like chocolate – if we get too much of a good thing we go off it.

Think how much better chocolate tastes after you’ve given it up for Lent. It’s the same thing with sex.

Too much and we get jaded and take it for granted. You might be far from needing sex therapy, but there are very few couples who wouldn’t benefit from a spot of sensate focus.

It encourages better communication and sparks libido.

Now follow this one week plan to get you sizzling between the sheets once again.

First, choose a week when you both decide that you won’t have penetrative sex.

Day 1 On the first night you cuddle up together on the couch.

Day 2 Go to bed an hour early. Naked. Lie in bed stroking and touching each other. Talk about your lives. Reconnect.

Day 3 Take a shower or bath together with sensual oils.

Day 4 She gives him a long all-over massage.

Day 5 He gives her a long all-over massage.

Day 6 She massages him, including touching him sexually but not to the point where he has an orgasm. She can explore his reactions to various kinds of touching and ask for feedback.

Day 7 He does the same for her.

Day 8 By now the sexual tension between you

should be causing visible sparks!

* Taken from Re-energise Your Sex Life by Elisabeth Wilson, published by Infinite Ideas (www.infideas.com)